The Illusion of Control
Teleos Consulting | June 11, 2014
To make sure we’re discussing the same term, let me offer definition one from Merriman-Webster. “Control – to direct the behavior of a person, to cause a person to do what you want.” I define it with a bit more color as the ability to get people to do what you want, when and how you want – and to act like they want it too. As the above title suggests, I believe that control is an illusion, a dangerous self-deception that is driven by fear.
It is possible to coerce behavior? The answer to that question is a definite maybe, assuming that force against interest is strong enough, the person has the capability to perform, AND you don’t push him beyond a boundary. But, coercion isn’t control, because you can’t make people pretend to like it, you can’t compel performance without capability, and performance won’t continue once the coercion stops. Simply, I believe that I can’t make people do something they don’t understand, can’t do, or don’t value.
So, why do people cling to the illusion of control? Continue Reading…